Depression Help; Are Your Friends Good for You?
Depression Help; Are your friends good for you? One of the things we emphasize much here is the importance of friends as we tackle our emotional problems. However what we need to also look at is what happens in our relationships with our friends. Just having friends and leaning on them is not enough. Friends are only helpful if the right kind of interaction is happening between us. Friends are only as healing and healthy as the interaction that takes place between them and us. Depression Help and Socializing We humans are social animals, and we all need interaction with others. Besides needing to manipulate objects to get feedback as we create things physically, we also need to manipulate attention from others to receive social feedback as well. These two things complete our sense of presence. We do that by socializing and sharing our experiences and feelings. Depression Help If we have depression, anxiety or problems with stress, we need friends. It is almost impossible to overcome these obstacles without their help. If our depression is caused by medical reasons, we will need understanding for seeing things in a more positive way than our emotions allow us normally. If our depression is caused by emotional abuse, we need help in re establishing our boundaries and self esteem, to help us make better choices in our own best self interest. Depression Help and Bad Influences Remember when we were kids and our parents would admonish us to stay away from Johnny or Alice because they were bad for us? Remember when we got in trouble and it was always when we hung out with Johnny or Alice? What happened when we were younger may still be happening today as we are adults. True we can use friendship to help us heal from our problems, as we lean on our friends and share our emotional difficulties with them. Our friends can be our encouragement and source of insight when we face specific obstacles in our daily life. Depression Help and Enablement What we need to look at, and ask ourselves, is if this healing dynamic is really happening. Friends are no good to us if they do not help us to heal, and give us added insight beyond that which we are capable of on our own. We need to ask ourselves, 'Is this person really helping me, or are we just using each other as a crutch and for sympathy?' It is a sad fact that many times the ones we select for friends, we are actually using to help us stay in our problems. Depression Help Do We Want Sympathy or Answers? One of the things we believe in strongest here, is that Human Life is dynamic. We as individuals, are constantly growing, healing, and expanding our personal horizons. Our relationships should reflect that growth as well. Our friendships should be about helping us in that natural growth. There can be dysfunction where we do not chose to grow, to learn and by doing that then serve. When this happens, our friendships will reflect that same unhealthy dynamic. Depression Help Friends Willing to Let Go It is not enough to just have friends; they must be friends who wish our best and highest good as well. Often times when we aspire to higher things, our supposed friends will try to talk us out of leaving the relationship. They may make us feel like we are abandoning them. In the case of finding a person to marry, when we are lonely and single, it may mean the change of a relationship with another friend who is also single and lonely. What we had in common earlier, we no longer have, and a true friend would encourage us to marry. That friend should be glad for us and be willing to let go of the relationship as it existed earlier, because it has changed for us, for the better. Depression Help Are My Friends Healthy? What we need to ask ourselves of our friends is, 'Does this person wish the best for me, and can l trust this person to help me be the best I can be? Alternatively, we may ask, ' Would this person be proud for me if this good thing happened which I want, or would they feel betrayed and abandoned?'
Depression Help and True Friends The ones who truly love us always want our best interests, and highest good. That may mean someday having to step back a little, or even saying goodbye, because we may not have the same things in common anymore. While that may seem risky, it is not. Those willing to encourage us to grow and give up the common need we both have, by achieving something, are the greatest friends, and we will never leave them behind. We too must be willing to suffer loss and pain, for our loved ones and friends, as they grow and achieve the best they can be. I think every mother knows this dynamic very well, as she sees her children grow up and leave home and face life. All mothers will feel that pain, as it is a part of mothering just like the pain of childbirth.
That is the greatest achievement any human being can do is to be willing to let go in love of another. Do your friends demonstrate that kind of love to you? Do you have that same willingness to let go for the love of your friends?
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