Relationship Quizzes and How to Use Them
Relationship Quizzes We cannot have a section on relationships without having a page on quizzes, and a little explanation that we feel is necessary about their use and relevancy.
Using only quizzes without much inner reflection to guide us to a good match is like building a house with only a saw and sawhorse. Quizzes about relationships are good tools but we must know how to use them. Relationship quizzes with skillful use must show us our individuality. Put simply, all quizzes do is show us who we are. Understanding Relationship Quizzes
Welcome to our website. Thank you for visiting us. If we are considering using relationship quizzes to help us find ourself, and to assist in finding others similar to us, that would be like looking for a lost child in a snowstorm using a candle. What we need is illumination on a much grander scale, like a helicopter search light, with tens of millions of candlepower. The problem is that all the enlightenment that any series of relationship quizzes can provide is not nearly enough for us to fill in the social voids in our life, if we do not know ourselves. Whatever the reason we are considering relationship quizzes, they fill only a small part of our need. We may use the relationship quizzes, and other disciplines of whatever kind we wish, but we must use them as accessories, not as the only tool. Whether we are concerned about a certain weak relationship, as in our marriage, or if we are seeking to gain greater social skills for creating future relationships, there is an important first step we must take before using the quizzes to get us there. Relationship quizzes can help, but we need a thorough self knowledge first, and that includes where we want to go in our life. We need a strong awareness of our needs and our boundaries. We need awareness from within of who we are.
When it comes to building our life with all of the social and emotional companionship that a full life provides, there is a more powerful tool than our mind. The true weapon of choice in the creation of our world is not our brain or any extension of it mentally, but our heart and all our yearnings within. Our heart builds our life, with all the financial, social, emotional, and spiritual mechanisms that comprise our support structure that makes our life full and complete. If there is any deficiency in any of these mechanisms, such a poverty, loneliness, lack of direction, and emotional need of any kind, that indicates a separation from ourselves on the inside. The problem may well be we have shut off our heart and we are running on our mind. Relationship quizzes alone, and all the other mental attempts at solving our life’s spiritual voids are like flying in a plane at night in a rainstorm without using radar. We cannot build with our mind using knowledge, what our heart should be building with its yearnings and its dreams, to guide us.
The correction is simple, and that is to turn off our mind in dealing with need, and start looking at life through the yearnings in our heart. Translation: Get in touch with your feelings and all the depth of your emotions. Start being your childlike emotional self again. Our heart contains powerful energies, which we often turn off as children, and fail to reactivate. With practice, we can make it a natural state of being again, just as if we were a child. What has all this have to do with using quizzes? It has everything to do with it. We cannot answer the relationship quizzes properly if we do not have full access to all our feelings and emotions, past and present. Our need for love and companionship, and our lack of it in our world, is a spiritual need, and the use of our mind to fix a spiritual need will not work. Our lack of use of our heart, and all its wonders and magic within caused this need to grow over time, in the first place. It will only be through the rediscovering the magic in our dreams that will bring our relationships back to us.
How do we use relationship quizzes properly and get the best benefit out of them? Before we do another quiz, and before we look at anything else, we must first stop and look inside ourself, and ask ourself the following questions. Who am I as an individual? What are my talents? What are my passions? What about me is special? What about me is beautiful? What about me is colorful? What is the driving force that excites me beyond measure?
What do I love to do more than anything else on earth? What do I love to think about or create so much that I could spent the rest of my life doing just that and never tire of it?
What message would I love to tell the whole world if I could cry it from the highest mountaintop?
What is the deepest thing inside me that I would love the whole world to see?
What is the uniqueness about me that is different from all others on earth? What inside me is my personal statement? Lori's Self Esteem Products at Zazzle We must familiarize ourself fully with all the new self-concept that these questions will reveal. This set of questions will start us in the new perspective of focusing on ourself, and our inner energies, which is spiritually healthy. It is not just the new information in our mind that will help us find our friends or heal the existing relationships: It is the awakened feelings in our heart we can share, that will bring loved ones to us, and heal old wounds where appropriate. If we will work on the reconnection to our hearts desires, and the disappointments in getting to them, all that theater of emotions will lead us home to our new life, and its fullness.
Remember, our emotionality will bring out the emotionality in others. If we do not know what drives us and makes us different, then how can we match ourself with relationship quizzes to others like us? All we will match up with are other disconnected searchers like ourself, in other words all we will find are losers and parasites wanting someone else to 'fix' them. As we say in spiritual therapy, ‘do not go to market without your wallet!’ Let us find our wallet here, and all the Soul Money inside, and then we will go to the vast spiritual marketplace. We are all George Washington, Queen Elizabeth, Princess Diana, and Mohammad Ali in some form. If someone would write history, and you were in it, what would you like humankind to remember you for achieving and bringing into the world?
What things about you are special, and what about you makes you very lovable?
Do you understand the difference between 'nurturement from a clean relationship' and 'needing another to give you your sense of self-value from a poisoning bad relationship'?
Can you imagine people loving you, enjoying being with you, just as you are, or do you feel you have to earn their love? Once we have answered these questions fully, we will begin seeing with the perspective that ‘I matter,’ and ‘in my world, I come first,’ which is as it should be. Once this becomes a natural part of our psyche, then we are aware of our Soul Money, and now we can go to market. Once we are aware of whom we are, and have a sense of our significance, then we will begin to turn on the very powerful searchlight within our heart. Turning on our heart means reclaiming our personhood rights, seeing, feeling, thinking, and choosing, in our own best interests, with apologies to no one. We may turn on our opinions, our healthy selfishness, our sense of importance, and declare that ‘I matter.’ Once we start to feel comfortable in this healthy selfish mode, we can then use any questions or examinations very effectively, to fulfill our life.
At this point, we can use what ever other discipline we like such as horoscopes, numerology, religion, psychology, medicine, alternative medicine, new age thinking, relationship quizzes, etc. We can try out all these things like clothes to see which fits and is comfortable, and let our heart decide what works for us. Add the parts that agree with how we see things, and reject the stuff that does not.
This moment of inspiration brought to you by: Shayne and Lori North and Our Book Overcoming Depression from Emotional Abuse/The Tools of Your Mind.
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