Relationship Quizzes; How well do you understand your Boundaries and your Self Esteem?
Relationship Quizzes can help us make better relationship choices, if we know this: Our quiz is at the end of this page and consists of five questions. These five questions will indicate if we are aware of the level of our self esteem and of what our boundaries consist. Having this internal sense of self is critical to creating intimacy no matter what type of relationship we seek to pursue. First is a little background on what the connection is between our sense of boundaries and our self esteem. If there is trouble with any relationship, or a lack of relationships, or concerns about compatibility between prospective partners, there is certainly a misunderstanding in this area. There are three areas that are infinitely connected; Relationships, Boundaries, and our Self Esteem. Any matter that would be addressed with relationship quizzes would indicate a lack of self esteem, allowing violations of boundaries, intentional or not as a primary cause of decay. Relationship Quizzes and Boundaries Do you know what your boundaries are? Boundaries are the edges of our selves that need protecting. Boundaries are what allow intimacy and closeness to happen. Any good relationship quizzes must ask questions that address our ability to feel our boundaries and protect them in a natural, comfortable and socially appropriate way. Boundary-aware people make the best and warmest of friends. If we are not aware of our boundaries, and we have not grown up encouraged to say 'No!' in protecting them, we will not make good friends, nor will we attract good friend candidates to us, no matter how many relationship quizzes we attempt. Seeking to improve or create new relationships with relationship quizzes or any other effort will not work without practicing our boundary protection skills. That would be like putting a fully inflated birthday balloon close to a porcupine to make them best friends. Do you think that would work? Of course not! Because we have both physical and spiritual dimensions, we have both physical and spiritual boundaries as well. Do you know what your spiritual boundaries are? Have you ever been made to feel bad, even though no one has actually physically hurt you? That is what spiritual boundary violation is. If someone ignores, insults or betrays you in a relationship, they have crossed your boundaries. Those boundaries are; Seeing through our own eyes Thinking our own thoughts Feeling our own feelings Making our own choices Attendant to that is getting the reverent respect from others as we carry out those activities.That is called living our life. Emotional abuse happens when one partner violates the other's boundaries with disrespect and humiliation, oftentimes in public. Relationship Quizzes and Self Esteem Here is the critical connection; Our sense of boundaries is only as strong as our self esteem, and our self esteem is mirrored exactly in our present relationships! If we have problems with relationships in any way, our self esteem is flawed to the same degree. Our social contacts mirror exactly what we think of ourselves. If you are using relationship quizzes to help improve social and personal contacts, you need to strengthen your self esteem somewhere, and work on your sense of boundaries as well. We guarantee that is where some or most of your problems lie! Self Esteem is how much you love yourself, and how much beauty you feel you have inside. Self esteem is also how much permission you give yourself to say no to others hurting and abusing you. We need to learn to love ourselves deeply, so others can love us. We will write more on that later. The more comfortable you are in saying an appropriate 'no' when someone violates your boundaries, the better a friend and business associate you will be. What is more, others can sense safety in associating with you and they will be drawn to you in numbers! Always remember this, intimacy is never crossed boundaries. ________________________________________ Now our relationship quiz; I have had trouble in the past of others abusing me either physically, emotionally or sexually. I have had trouble with deep relationships, either marriage or companionship, because of conflict with each other's needs. I am seeking companionship because I do not feel good about myself. I have difficulty in relationships because I have to give up my space as a price for their companionship. I feel empty when I am alone and want to be where the party is at, and where the action is. ________________________________________
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