Relationship Quiz Explanation
Relationship Quiz Explanation: Take this short test to see if you know your weaknesses. Score between zero and five, the lower the score the better. The explanations are right below. I have had trouble in the past of others abusing me either physically, emotionally or sexually. I have had trouble with deep relationships, either marriage or companionship, because of conflict with each other's needs. I am seeking companionship because I do not feel good about myself. I have difficulty in relationships because I have to give up my space as a price for their companionship. I feel empty when I am alone and want to be where the party is at, and where the action is.
I have had trouble in the past of others abusing me either physically, emotionally or sexually. Someone with a history of abuse, either as a victim or later as an abuser will have a higher probability than usual of boundary problems. This statement by itself does not indicate danger, as we can heal and mature out of dysfunction. But not passing the other statements below indicates further change is needed to heal completely. I have had trouble with deep relationships, either marriage or companionship, because of conflict with each other's needs. If a partner’s needs are interfering with the depth of a relationship, that indicates a lack of compatibility. If the partners are not similar enough in the relevant areas that indicates one or both of the partners do not know who and what they are to begin with. If they do not know themselves, how can they find their own match, and this is a function of low self esteem. I am seeking companionship because I do not feel good about myself. A person seeking a relationship for the purpose of feeling good about which they are would project that responsibility for their happiness on their partner. That would put too much of a burden on the other person to ‘fix’ them, and no relationship would last under that heavy price tag. I have difficulty in relationships because I have to give up my space as a price for their companionship. This person definitely does equate intimacy with crossed boundaries, and does not understand that intimacy means shared boundaries and keeping our full individuality within a loving and close bond. They also might have problems with finding things in common to share for anything deep and lasting. I feel empty when I am alone and want to be where the party is at, and where the action is. If we agree with this statement we are likely getting our sense of value from what others think of us, and that is not a good thing. We need to feel good about ourselves first, then carry that inner fire and enthusiasm into our relationships, and not project that responsibility onto others to make us feel good. The person who would agree with this statement would either be a clinger or tend to violate other’s boundaries or be a victim themselves.
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