Attacking Anxiety and Depression

Attacking anxiety and depression

Thanks you for visiting us. Welcome to our website! We are going to offer a fresh new perspective attacking anxiety and depression. We hope this new insight gives you or your loved one who may be suffering, some new encouragement. There is light at the end of your tunnel! When you leave this page today, you will have a new weapon that will change your life forever!

There are many causes for anxiety and depression. There can be purely medical causes for these conditions, and there can be biological causes. In attacking anxiety and depression,we will look closely at their nature to better see how to proceed. If there is a predominant personality type in the family, it can pass on from parent to child, as in the case of many bipolar disorder cases, both by learned and biological means. In this manner, these conditions of depression and anxiety can pass on indefinitely. If it is passed on by mostly learned values, then we call that means of transference cultural, as in the case of an outlook on life that the parent has, which they teach the child. In this manner, the child learns to live in the world that their parent, grand parents, and even their great grandparents created for them, and not they themselves. The children learn how to look at themselves and their role in their world environment as their parent sees things. Parents teach their children what they can do, and what is not okay for them to do. Often times these abilities taught have little to do with what the child’s natural capabilities are, but more to do with what the parent sees as proper for the child to believe they can do. There can be a big difference! The first step in attacking anxiety and depression is to understand what is our true capabilities, and what are our capabilities as our parents allow us.

Most of the depression cases we have observed center on the unmet emotional needs of the sufferer, as opposed to medical or biological causes alone. These can be either selfish nurturement needs like lack of friendship and love, or from emotional stress from physical needs such as poverty and lack of resources to sustain themselves and their families in a comfortable manner. If one lives in a bad neighborhood, or has to work in a hostile workplace where their boss or co-workers constantly threaten their pride, that will eventually wear down their spirit into depression. Regardless of your causes of depression and anxiety, we are going to introduce you to a weapon you presently have that is about to change all of this forever! Your answer is right here on this page. We will show you how to be attacking anxiety and depression at the true cause, and that is not where you might expect. The true source of your problem might surprise you. Unmet emotional needs are the biggest single cause of all depression and anxiety, in our opinion. Unmet emotional needs, if left unaddressed, will later cause medical and biological imbalances, which will further increase the problem. When we are attacking anxiety and depression, we need to work on the unmet emotional needs first, than add medical treatment later if the emotional sense of well-being does not correct the medical imbalance on its own. Unmet emotional needs, also if not understood, will cause financial and material scarcity as well, as we overlook our natural outlets for our talents and lose desire to put out our best efforts in building our lives. We will share in full the spiritual tools you already have so you can have success in attacking anxiety and depression. Don’t touch that dial, we will be right back!

How Depression Works on Our Mind

In attacking anxiety and depression, we must understand how it works to change our thinking process and how we see reality. When we experience extreme emotional need for a prolonged period, it does more than cause us pain; it tells us something about ourselves. First, it may tell us that our need is unattainable and we can never get that need met. It may tell us our dreams are unrealistic and we can never be truly happy. It can also tell us having desires of happiness and fulfillment is wrong, and even having our feelings are wrong as well. If we are lonely and we seek companionship, then believing that we are not beautiful, or manly, or smart, or charismatic enough to have someone love us and need us, is a painful truth to face. If we believe we are incapable of meeting our emotional need, the real message to our damaged ego is that we are an incompetent and stupid loser. We see ourselves as ugly, overweight, slow and bumbling, boring in conversation, unpolished and clumsy. We feel we are a real social liability to anyone stupid enough to have us as his or her company in a marriage relationship. We may feel we are too fat, too uneducated, or too old. As we will see, all of these are misconceptions and the truth is just the opposite!

There are other painful assumptions we may make from this message, depending upon our personality, and the nature of the precipitating event. The first assumption is that we do not deserve to get our needs met. If we really believe that we are not worthy to have love from others and be happy, then not all of the effort in the world will help us achieve it. If we somehow were to achieve happiness, we would feel we did not deserve it and eventually our guilt will cause our happiness to fail. This subconscious sabotaging of our life will serve to strengthen the message that we do not deserve happiness, and that all happiness is temporary at best. Questioning such painful assumptions we have made about ourselves is critical as we begin attacking anxiety and depression in an effective way.

Shame is the strongest prison in the world, and is the most invisible. Most of all anxiety and depression consists of the presence of shame. First, it tells us there is no answer for our emotional pain, second it tells us that we are too undesirable and ugly for others to love us to get our emotional comfort we need, and lastly it tells us that we do not deserve to be happy and emotionally comforted anyway. As we begin attacking anxiety and depression, we will start with our assumptions about our shame.

Here is secret number one as we begin attacking anxiety and depression: The problem is not a state of anxiety or an emotional condition of depression, for those are only symptoms. If you took drugs, hypnosis, or any other cure for the symptoms, soon they would return. In attacking anxiety and depression, we must attack the source, which is the shame. You or your loved one’s conditions of anxiety and depression are much like a swarm of wasps under the eaves of your home. Occasionally a wasp will land and sting you. That is your depression or fit of anxiety. If you try to get them in the air after they are airborne, you will never get them all. If they attack in mass, you may down a few, but the majority will land their painful stings in you, for it is a matter of numbers. What have you done so far to remedy the situation? You moved out of your house to get away from the wasps, which will sting you. The problem with that is you are now in another neighbor’s house, his house too has wasps that will sting you, and they do from time to time. The real problem, and the real source, is not the wasps, but the wasp nest under the eaves of your roof, where they lay in wait for you to disturb them. Therefore, what we are going to do in attacking anxiety and depression, which are only symptoms, the wasps, is we are going to remove the wasp nest from under your roof’s eave. If we destroy the wasp nest, we destroy the wasps. Getting them before they become airborne is the only way to do it. How do we do that? We attack the shame and false reality that shame has taught you is the real world. Question the painful lies you have believed all your life about yourself. Attacking anxiety and depression means questioning the truth of the experiences that shamed you. terrible events and severe emotional needs can lead us to very wrong conclusions about what really happened, and our sense of value afterwards. Anxiety and depression often lead us to see things regarding our personal value in very distorted way, and we must attack anxiety and depression by first questioning our sense of self value in the world as we see it presently.

The wasps are the belief that your dreams are not possible, and the belief that you cannot get emotional comfort for some deep need from long ago. The wasps are the fact you may have lost a parent when you still needed them as a child. The wasps are the abuse or the rape that you experienced. The wasps are the loss of a loved one or of your child before its time. The wasps are the insecurity you have felt your whole life as a child in the classroom at school. The wasps are the weight problem you have always had, and the fact that you never had a date in your teen years. The wasps are your disability that kept you from living a normal social life as a young adult. The wasps are your social anxiety in public, and your fears of all things social in trying to reach out to get a date. The wasps are your lack of confidence in asserting your rights and the feeling of shame in being a coward as you see yourself. Those are all wasps. However, remember, they are not causes they are symptoms. In attacking anxiety and depression, we are going to kill the real enemy, the wasp nest itself. If the wasp nest vanishes, the wasps will die!

Okay, let us get back to the subject of how anxiety and depression works on our mind. When we originally experienced the events that caused us our pain and disappointment, remember we learned some soul-poisoning lessons from those experiences. We may have learned that life cannot meet our emotional needs, for they are impossible. We also may have learned that we are far less than others are and we cannot compete because of extreme faults within us, physically, mentally, or in some other capabilities we wish to have to feel good about whom we are. Lastly, we may have learned the lesson we do not deserve happiness or attention from others because we are not worthy. When we learn these lessons early on in life, they do not stay in the forefront of our minds, like when we learn in school math facts like twelve times twelve equals one hundred and forty four, or history facts like The Civil War began in eighteen hundred and sixty one. Those types of facts we learn consciously through the front door, cerebrally. Facts we learn subconsciously through the back door by inference and assumption are unspecified and undefined, but are very real. Life’s bad experiences do not give us the opportunity to think about them, and to argue with them if we disagree, for we have these truths forced upon us, from the position of authority that life has over us at that time. If life is too harsh, and we experience too much pain, we conclude we are powerless, and are unworthy of comfort, and are unaware that we have learned this as fact, since we have never had opportunity to put it into words specifically. We may say things like ‘welcome to the real world,’ as we concede acceptance of all things painful.

Here is where the chain reaction begins. When we accept the pain that life subjects us to, and the suffering that life has caused us as relevant, we then accept that we are less than we want to be. When we accept the lies that we are less than we want to be, we begin shutting down our feeling our heart’s desires, since they are impossible. Since we now feel our hearts desires are foolish, we also begin shutting down displaying our talents, and openly sharing our true personality, because it is flawed and a liability, as we see it. Next, we then begin shutting down our full participation in creating our life around us, since we believe life is not trustworthy, and we do not deserve happiness and fullness of life anyway. In summary, we begin hiding our self and our feelings lest others make fun of us and use our feelings against us. The sum total and effects of all this is, we quit feeling, and we start reasoning. We cease our healthy expression of our happiness and our trust in the world. Then we start mistrusting and strategizing a plan to survive and outthink the hostile forces and personalities that are a threat all around us. At some point, we shut down all of our feelings, and we bring to bear all of our intellect as we deal with life. We see life as a mental environment where the smartest person with the most cunning wins, where knowledge is everything and feelings are a weakness, and a liability. We attack our anxiety and depression with just knowledge and facts, and will-power and calculation. We do not think any thing emotional or spiritual exists, and we see life as only a physical environment, with practical answers to everything. This not only does not work, it just makes more problems, and the emptiness in us gets worse. You cannot think your way out of anxiety, or learn your way out of depression. The effect of us becoming cerebral, tends to be that we try to impress others with how much we know, and how smart we are, and how cunning and brilliant our views of life are. The problem is all we do is drive others away from ourselves. No one can tell us anything, and that is because we know everything!

Remember we said that the horrific events and the bad things we feel about ourselves today are the wasps. Remember we also said that the shame was the real problem and that is the wasp nest under the eave of our house roof. We also said to kill the wasps, we need to destroy the nest, and all the wasps will die. In addition, kill it here we will!

We will now begin attacking anxiety and depression and we will destroy the wasp nest finally. To see how to do this, we will look at how an emotionally empowered person relates to their world that is different from how a shame-based person relates. That difference in how the two see and interact with their environments is the critical difference that you need to overcome the shame and helplessness. If you understand that difference, then you can learn how to kill your own wasp nest in your life. Do not worry about the wasps in the air; you do not need to stop them and you cannot, just destroy the base from whence they came. They will die soon enough!

Okay, we know how we got here, and now we will retrace our steps to go back from whence we came. The Old Order has driven us out of our Garden of Eden, and now we have been in the Land of Egypt, but our hearts now call, and now we must go back home to Our Promised Land of our full life with awaiting friends. We will also explain why we experienced all the pain and loss in our life. It was not just meaningless hardship, but God’s Love and his instruction to teach us something good about ourselves, as you will see. God gave us our emotional need, and attacking this anxiety and depression will make us stronger afterwards, which was God's intent all along.

Step number one in attacking anxiety and depression: Start Feeling Your Heart’s Feelings Again.

Remember we said, “When we accept the lies that we are less than we want to be, we begin shutting down our feeling our heart’s desires, since they are impossible.” What that does is to shut down our heart’s participation in creating our world. Our life has been without a guidance system since that time. Our heart, not our mind guides our destiny and our fortunes to us and us to it. Our heart guides us to our loved ones and them to us, and it does that by communication with them over the horizon, before we even meet them! What we need to do to reverse that is start using our heart again to start feeling our heart’s desires we had as a child. That will mean feeling a lot of pain and embracing a lot of chaos we did not understand, but as we say in therapy, ‘the only way out is through,’ and that applies here. Begin attacking your anxiety and depression by starting to feel your feelings again. There is a mountain of other feelings inside you other than stress and being depressed, and the rest of what you need to feel needs to come out. Do not worry about all that you do not understand just yet, for over time, your heart, and not your mind will reveal it all to you. Your heart can understand all things that your mind cannot begin to embrace, for we grow in knowledge with our mind, but we gain wisdom with the use of our heart. Always remember that. If you have shut down your feelings and your heart, how can you gain any wisdom over your problems? The mind and reasoning cannot give you the answers and the weapons you need for attacking anxiety and depression, ever. Conditions of anxiety and depression are usually a spiritual and therefore emotional condition, and the mind is useless as a weapon in this realm. In attacking anxiety and depression, the weapon of choice is your heart, and its powers.

Step number two in attacking anxiety and depression: Start Sharing Your True Self by Turning On Your Sincerity Switch, and Trusting Others to Accept You.

As we begin attacking anxiety and depression, we will now take the greatest risk we could ever face, and risk rejection and ridicule, but we must take it. "The only way out is through." Memorize that saying and apply it to you emotional discipline often, you will be glad you did. Remember we said, “Since we now feel our hearts desires are foolish, we also begin shutting down displaying our talents, and openly sharing our true personality, because it is flawed and a liability, as we see it.” What our natural defensive posture has done has turned off our trust of others. When we mistrust we broadcast on the psychic level over the Cosmic Internet, through the antennae of our Heart, to all others on our spiritual level, which are hostile. When we do that, every other predatory and mistrusting soul in our vicinity will come into our sphere of influence, attracted by our vulnerability. Mistrust, whether originally warranted and justified or not, will attract predators into our life. These predators are the Old Order Souls like our abusive parents, or lack of parents, and the oppressive personalities that controlled us in our youth. The more we see others are hostile, the more we mistrust humanity, the more we will call these sharks to us. The remedy is to choose to be sincere in all you do with all people around you, loved one, coworker, or just brief acquaintance. Turn on your Sincerity switch within your heart and you will begin attracting likewise sincere personalities into your life. Choosing to be sincere will broadcast the signal over the horizon to all nurturers to reveal themselves to you in new relationships. Your heart has the capability to communicate to those you have not even met yet! Question the beliefs that humanity is as hostile as you have previously seen. Begin trusting and immediately the hostile predators will start to drift away, and loving nurturing souls will start to emerge into your life. As they start to enter your life, you can sense their healing and compassionate nature. It will be these New Order Souls with which you can start building your life and getting your long overdue emotional needs met. You have built a life with oppressive poisoners by your mistrust, and you can reverse that and build a new life with nurturers with your choice to trust. Try it and see. You will get a lot of hatred from the Old Order Souls when you do, so expect it, they will not leave your life willingly! Attacking anxiety and depression means getting rid of all the poisoning losers in your life, and sometimes there is no easy way to do that other than by using force.

Step number three in attacking anxiety and depression: Start Trusting Life and Your Future by Turning On Your Spontaneity Switch, and Enjoy the Beauty of Today.

Remember we said, “Next, we then begin shutting down our full participation in creating our life around us, since we believe life is not trustworthy, and we do not deserve happiness and fullness of life anyway.” Just as shutting down our trust of humanity to look out for our needs called predators to us, so too does our mistrust of life in general call chaos into our life-path so that none of the good opportunities God and Life wanted us to experience will happen. We will miss our boat on every opportunity, and every relationship Life and God wished us to have. Our mistrust will erode away our life-plan into chaos and non-activity and decay. The Remedy: Turn on your Spontaneity Switch in your heart and enjoy the beauty of the today, and trust God and Life to orchestrate your life’s opportunities in the tomorrows ahead. Trust will restore the harmony into the events God has planned for you to experience. Life is self-cleansing and self-healing if you trust, and it will orchestrate back into harmony, if you let it. God’s plan for your life requires no help on your part other than your sincerity, spontaneity, and you just being yourself in participation in it.

Step number four in attacking anxiety and depression: Start Feeling Your Heart’s Dreams Again.

When you were a child, you came into this world with a plan God laid out for you ahead of you. You were a promise and a possibility, and you were a ton of potential. You still are! When you feel your excitement and your enthusiasm over the things you love to do, you arrange those things in your future. You also call all the others who will help you achieve your dreams into your world as well. When you choose to quit feeling those dreams, you shut down the organization process, and everything went on hold. When you choose to start feeling your dreams again, your life will start becoming what it should have been all along. Your or your loved one’s life is more than just attacking anxiety and depression, for that is only the beginning. Here you can attack anxiety and depression, and then you will have to move on beyond that, because what do you do once that is done?

Your true connection to all humanity and to life is not your physical contacts you make everyday, these are merely the results of your connection. Just as bouts of anxiety and depression are not causes, they are symptoms, so too are the relationships and undesirable conditions you experience today just symptoms. The symptoms are the wasps, and they will never go away if you attack anxiety and depression by attacking the symptoms. The true causes are your choice to turn off the emotional switches in your heart. That caused your heart to begin broadcasting to all others and to life itself to disconnect from others and your good. Evil predators and decay of your significant life events began. That is the wasp nest. If you open up your heart, than that will kill the wasp nest and the wasps will soon die.

The weapon we promised you to reveal to you is the weapon of your heart, its purity and your sincerity and your authenticity. When you return to your Original Authentic Self, your anxiety and depression will leave. The shame will leave, the wasp nest will no longer exist, and the wasps will die. New Order loved ones will reenter your life as you reenter your Capital City of Your Self.

There are a few questions you may have. One obvious question is this: If God loved me, why did he give me such pain and such an undesirable characteristic, when no one will love me like this. Moreover, why did God take away this or that? Alternatively, why did God cause me to suffer with such and such? The answers lie in the area of his love for you. God knew that if you stayed in a complete setting, you would not appreciate it or see all of its beauty. To see something, God needed to remove you from it, until you learned how to return on your own power. I is like teaching a fish about the beautiful characteristics of its water. You must take a fish out of water to teach it about water when you put it back in. Then it understands the characteristics about water when you return it to its home. Then it appreciates the water. God had to remove you from your happiness to show you your controls to make your own happiness, which will give you more empowerment, which all along was his intention. In the end, you may be much happier, which is as it should be. We hope and pray for your or your loved one’s every happiness!

We hope we have given you some inspiration in how to heal you or your loved one’s condition. When we speak of God, we speak of God outside of religion, or as we speak of it as The Loving Mother Universe, who loves and empowers us all regardless of our culture or beliefs.

For more on this subject please consider our first in series book Overcoming Depression from Emotional Abuse/The Tools of Your Mind. In it, we take you through your spiritual journey back home to your Original Self. We talk about God's purpose behind that soul’s journey, as we follow our heart’s dreams to our ultimate destiny. We answer many questions about selfishness, prosperity, psychotherapy, and finding our dreams and happiness. We share much about boundaries. We also talk about the spiritual controls we have within to bring our good to us. Those controls are our Sincerity Switch, Spontaneity Switch, and lastly our Feelings and Dreams Switch.

Thank you for visiting us today and please keep in touch, sharing your trials and your victories with us. We promise to answer personally every Email that we receive.

Shayne and Lori North in Aurora, Colorado

Overcoming Depression from Emotional Abuse/The Tools of Your Mind The Book

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