Creative Ways of Dealing with Stress

Creative Ways of Dealing with Stress

The Spiritual Approach

Welcome to our website. We are glad you are here. Your search for creative ways dealing with stress is over! Stress can be both beneficial and damaging, for we can experience it in two ways. Therefore, there are two dimensions of stress based on its level; one level is good, like in small amounts only. The good levels would be in the nature of a roller coaster ride, or playing a video game. Sometimes in life, we do things to create and therefore increase levels of stress. We seek to make a setting more appealing, as in waging a twenty-dollar bet on a championship football game, or competing at work to see who can outdo the other in production. There is no logic behind it other than it is one creative way of dealing with stress by making life more interesting and increase our stake in the situation. In this case we seek to add stress to our life. With good stress, we do not get bored and life has more flavor and color. That is about as far as good stress goes.

The other level is bad, as in mountains of it. A mountain of stress in our lives is unhealthy and the cumulative effect can lead to health problems, broken relationships, or worse. That is not good, and it is this serious condition, which we will talk about here. There are many ways of dealing with stress, which we will use to lighten our load. We will also use stress as a guide to help us find our happiness.

Many people deal with stress the wrong way by trying to ignore it. When they do that it does not go away, it simply goes underground, and that is not good. the very first step is to start focusing on our stress, and become aware of the stressors that are causing it. We must deal with our stress by facing it head on.

Stressors can come in any form whatsoever. That which is a stressor to one personality is very comfortable to another personality. Virtually anything in your world can be a stressor, and too much of it can cause you severe emotional problems. Moreover, this is where you are going to become you own life coach and start to work quantifying your stressors, and matching your lifestyle to your personality. That is what creative ways dealing with stress means in common sense language. Your inventory of ways of dealing with emotional stress is about to expand!

Since anything can be a stressor to anyone, then there are two main reasons for feeling overstressed: one, your ways of dealing with the stressors is ineffective, two, your ways of dealing with the stressors is effective, but you are in the wrong setting for your personality. There can be few other things to consider other than those.

One word about medical conditions; There can be medical deficiencies along with your inability to deal with stressful situations, but they are usually tied to emotional dysfunction and rarely the sole cause by itself. Medical or nutritional deficiencies will happen by self-neglect. The same lack of life skills that manifest stress is the same inability to take care of one’s self nutritionally and with enough sleep. Once one acquires the love of self and their awareness of their deity, the automatically corrected lifestyle will produce health. While medical or nutritional deficiencies may be present, they are a sister symptom, and not an original cause. The original causes are what we want to correct, all else will change. In other words, kill the head of the serpent, and its powerful body will die, and that is what we are after. You should experience your stress as an exciting challenge, not as an overwhelming problem for which there is no answer.

Those persons who are living a life away from their dreams and talents will experience a lot of stress because they are in a setting God means for someone else. They are lost from where their life is calling them. If that is true for you then all the things around you that are stressing you out are actually good milestones, for that is life’s way of telling you:

“Go home. Go follow your dream and find your destiny, for there, loved ones are waiting for you to find them, and a whole host of friends are also waiting. There is also good employment and a wonderful setting with stress which you personality enjoys. Go home!” In other words, stress in your life can be because you are in the wrong type of lifestyle for your personality. If God meant for you to live in Alaska as a game warden, and your personality loved the isolation, then living out of place in a big city with skyscrapers and mean people would cause you much stress. Dealing with mean leopard seals is comfortable to you, and you would find the Alaskan sunsets there to be beautiful. You would not get lonely, because you would be ‘home’. The most creative and effective way to deal with the stress in your present life is to change it to the setting most suitable for you.

If you loved people in a busy city with lots of nightlife, selling cars to reluctant customers who did not know what they wanted, then living in the center of the biggest city is just for you! You would love the bright lights, the noise, the hordes of people, and you would have a million friends, for you would be ‘home’.

Therefore, to find out what your situation is, we need to ask ourselves a few questions and broaden our awareness to those things around us. What are these things telling us? Our lives will talk to us through these questions.

Internal questions of self-analysis

Am I really, where I want to be for the rest of my life, or do I feel out of place? What do I love to do more than anything?

Does my world now make me use my talents? Is my ‘here and now’ a direct stepping-stone to my dreams and passions?

Do I inwardly have that feeling as if I am in touch with my life’s plan and my soul’s destiny, or do I feel like I have missed my boat somewhere?

You may ask, “Why are we looking at the big picture first of me possibly being in the wrong life as the reason for my inability to deal with stress? Does not conventional wisdom indicate that we make the simplest adjustments first in any diagnosis, then move on to more complex issues as they emerge?

Actually, we are doing just that. The simplest reason for wanting to learn about ways coping with emotional stress and seeking creative ways dealing with stress is because you or a loved one would be out of your element, and overstress and inadequacy for the lifestyle would be the primal indicators of that.

Think of your life as you building your home in a flood zone near an active river. Having to research stress is parallel to your home experiencing water damage repeatedly. It is a waste of time to work on shoring up your home if it is in the wrong spot. If it is in a low area at some point in time, a super flood will come along and wipe you out for good. Fresh insight must question that your home is in the right spot to begin with. Once we have established that, then we can work on the life skills to deal with the stress in your present setting. This broader perspective first approach is a new tool to help you be a better life coach. We call it the ‘why am I even doing this, why am I even here’ question. If our setting answers those questions adequately then we move on deeper to gaining level two skills coping with stress.

Once we have determined that we are first where we will be happiest, and we are following our dreams, then we can work on the other things. We have matched our lifestyle to our personality, so now we must quantify our stressors.

Now it is time for the external questions, which examines our world and its true relationship to our deified selves. That means looking at what is bothering us.

External questions of our world’s analysis

What things, by list are causing me stress? Be sure to include everything you can possibly think of. Employment issues, health problems, money matters, relationship needs, lifestyle needs, as in ‘too much travel time, not enough time to sleep’, etc.

What other positive people in my station in life have this problem, and what are their responses, and how are they adequately addressing this issue?

Ask yourself the questions above and then apply the following magnifying glass to the two questions and the list you just made. There are three points of wisdom most of us lack in looking at our world, which create stress to unhealthy levels. These lacks of wisdom make us see things as obstacles where none exists.

1. Something outside in our environment stimulates a trigger of something inside unresolved since childhood, such as staying with an abusive boss or husband thusly replicating an abusive parent. Alternatively, we may take a job for less pay than one that is better because we feel we do not deserve the better one. Unresolved shame issues will create stress in an otherwise placid life setting by making us make conflict, or stay in a hostile setting. This is how our inner Wonder Child seeks to get our attention to get its selfish needs met. 2. Facing a decision between two evils and then second-guessing our choice, or refusing to make a choice, thereby always punishing our self for that choice. Once we have decided to make our, like a certain job, or move to another part of the country, or marry a certain person, then stand by it and follow through. Beyond this point, worry is a choice; do not worry if the other choice could have been better. Feel our deep feelings, follow our intuition, and commit to that direction and go. Do not make decisions that we do not have faith in. Wait a due time for wisdom, make a timely decision, and move on.

3. Worry about the uncertainty of our personal future in general. This seemingly realistic caution is in reality always life damaging. Whether we stress out for society in general, or just our circumstances specifically, it is still irrelevant. That is because if an asteroid is going to hit the earth, or global famine is coming, all is lost anyway. Whatever economic, social and health blessings await us, we should strive for them with enthusiasm. We collectively as humanity make our own future. Hard work, either individually in our own world, or collectively as a country will erase any scarcities! Today is all we have, and wise men enjoy the fullness of the ‘now’ in its own right. We cannot reduce probability of unexpected personal tragedy by worrying about it to the extent of causing stress, only by reasonable precaution. Look at tomorrow through your dreams and not through your worries. Summary

1. If we are listening to our inner Wonder Child, and meeting its needs that will help us cope with our stress, because we are comforted from within our selves.

2. Having faith in our feelings, making our choices, and committing to them will deal with stress because we are taking full responsibility for our lives.

3. If we take due precaution about our future, and we do our best in the present, we can look at the future through our dreams and not our worries. Trusting life with our future is the greatest tool to coping with our stress.

There is a biological component to coping with emotional stress, and creative ways dealing with stress when we feel it within. Our bodies accumulate it in the various muscle groups. Depending on our personality and type of body, will dictate which muscle group accumulates it. For some of us, it may be our shoulders, or for others our stomach, lower back, neck or forehead and temple area. The first step is to develop awareness of it within us as we go through our day. The second step is to express it physically through exercise. Whatever kinds of exercise we love to do is the activity that will release it. As we exercise, our body will process the stress into energy, and our mind will cope with that same stress by absorbing subconsciously new choices to make about our future. Exercise turns our mind, heart, and body into an antenna, which communicates with the Loving Mother Universe.

Stress problems always reduce to emotional problems, and emotional problems always reduce to spiritual problems. Stress, at its quantum level, is always a spiritual matter, arising when we lose our contact with our higher order self, and with ourselves to God. Exercise and faith turns that antenna back on.

For more on this subject please consider our first in series book Overcoming Depression from Emotional Abuse/The Tools of Your Mind. In it, we take you through your spiritual journey back home to your Original Self. We talk about God's purpose behind that soul’s journey, as we follow our heart’s dreams to our ultimate destiny. We answer many questions about selfishness, prosperity, psychotherapy, and finding our dreams and happiness. We share much about boundaries. We also talk about the spiritual controls we have within to bring our good to us. Those controls are our Sincerity Switch, Spontaneity Switch, and lastly our Feelings and Dreams Switch.

God bless as you begin your new life today. We would love to hear from you. Please tell us how you are doing in your search for answers, and to share your trials and victories with us. We promise to personally answer every email we receive.

Shayne and Lori North in Aurora. Colorado

Overcoming Depression from Emotional Abuse/The Tools of Your Mind The Book

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