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Emotional Abuse and its Effects
Thank you for visiting us here. We are glad you have come. Emotional abuse can poison our soul if we do not know how to recognize and overcome it. In this section, we will talk about this damage and analyze it from a spiritual perspective. In the page Emotional Abuse and its effects, one of the pages below, we talk about the abuser’s agenda against the victim. Abusers and victims need each other and use their similar psychic wavelengths to contact each over the horizon and meet. Both the abuser and the victim are living in childhood agendas that they are trying to finish. They both are living out shame-based definitions of themselves put there by abusive or absent parents. The abuser is acting out their anger at something for which they have not words to describe. Alternatively, the victim is acting out their shame and hurt from parents who refused to comfort them. Both abuser and victim need each other desperately to help them with their reality. That is why so many abusive relationships do not allow outside friendship and new insight. Both abuser and victim need an audience from the outside world to give them virtue, but they are not interested in seeking change or improvement, only sympathy. In boyfriend emotional abuse , at the bottom, we talk about the original source for the dilemma. The present relationship with her boyfriend is not the problem; it is the original relationship with her parents ‘where the storm gets its energy.’ We see here that it is two dysfunctional people acting out a shared reality. This reality is needs within the daughter for the love and care giving from her parents. If you are a parent concerned about the abusive settings your daughter is involved in, there is both good and bad news. The bad news is the emotional needs your daughter has are the fault of yourself or a previous parent. The boyfriend is just a disposable symptom. He is not using her as much as she is using him. The good news is you are alarmed about it, see it, and are taking strong steps to find out answers to her needs. The good news wins out, because you being here and studying this website shows you are a good parent, making positive steps to grow and heal. Dear parent, do not give up hope, for it is never too late to grow, heal and change. If you are the abused girlfriend, think about your relationship to your boyfriend. Do a deep emotional analysis on yourself and ask yourself a few questions that you do know the answers to. What are the reasons you are staying with him? What about him do you find so acceptable? What is it about him that matches whatever it is within your self? Why do you need him? Why did you choose a relationship with him over another type of boyfriend? The key words here for you are ‘emotional need.’ If you can quantify the energies between him and yourself, then you can release yourself from needing him. What it boils down to is that you are trying to tell him, or get from him, something that you cannot tell another source figure. If you can put that need into words, then you can liberate your soul from your closed loop situation, and then you can heal and move on to empowerment. In characteristics of emotional abuse, also at the bottom, we talk about it in chronology, in four stages. These stages are characteristics, dependency, cycles, and long-term effects. If we can see the stages, we can see the point in which we are. The magical thing about us is God has made us so that we will never grow up from being a child. We only grow older. This is not a bad thing, for it is as it should be. This is the wonderful thing about us and it is very good! That which is within us as a child will always be within us. If we can see our needs as a child, we can liberate and empower ourselves as adults. If the child is needful, we seek to fill those needs outside of ourselves, and we lose spiritual power. If we find the way to meet out inner child’s emotional needs, then we release our inner powers through selfishness, and we grow on to happiness and fulfillment. Your inner child will always be within you, needful or not. Therefore, the idea is to meet its needs, and then your inner child will empower you to find your happiness. The poisoning part of emotional abuse and its effects is that it is like drinking water that makes you thirstier, the more you drink. The more abused you were, the more approval you need, and you seek the approval of the abuser so you can move on. This of course, the abuser will never give, because they want you to continue needing them! This need for approval to balance a lack of self-esteem fuels the cycles. The stronger the needs, the longer the cycles, and then we see the long term effects. Long-term effects can go on for a lifetime, or for generations. The magnitude can be large enough to include whole communities of like-minded individuals banded together to live out their own version of reality. This is very sad, as these groups of families live out their whole lives in complete deprivation and pain, as my family still does today. In how to recover from verbal and emotional abuse, also below, we learn about our personhood and its boundaries. We learn about the four spiritual rights our personhood has. These rights make us sacred and Godlike in nature, and give us the basis of our self-esteem. If some source figure violates any of these four rights, we lose our sacred identity. We then seek the rest of our lives to reclaim this lost status that our inner self needs to feel okay. The problem is we do not know exactly what is missing within us, and we forever search in all the wrong places. We do not know what we are searching for, but we know something is terribly wrong, and we forever seek to fix it. We will learn what is wrong with ourselves here and we will show you how to heal yourself! We also learn that we have five boundaries associated with these four rights. Once we learn about and understand our four rights, we then can easily see the five boundaries associated with these rights. This spiritual abuse is the violation of these five boundaries, by others. Once we can understand and defend these boundaries, we can recover from the shame and guilt that hold us in our spiritual prison. Your shame and guilt and its effects do not have to control your life forever. God may have sent them into your world to teach you something about yourself, but God also wants you to find his answer, which is the second part of his message to you. God never sends a problem without sending an answer within reach, if you look for it in the right place. Emotional abuse and its effects In this page we talk about our tendency to find others to treat us as we feel we deserve, either good or bad. It is up to us to break the cycle, it is not the abuser's responsibility, but our own! Boyfriend emotional abuse In this page we talk about the role the victim may play in the emotional abuse as well. The answers may surprise you! Characteristics of We talk about characteristics of emotional abuse in the chronology of its four stages. How to recover from Here we discover our higher order self, and our spiritual boundaries. When we can see these boundaries and our sacredness more clearly, we can recover from abuse by others. God bless you as you begin your new life today. We would love to hear from you. Please tell us how you are doing in your search for answers, and to share your trials and victories with us! We answer every Email personally. Below please check out our first in series book Overcoming Depression from Emotional Abuse/The Tools of Your Mind. It specifically addresses emotional abuse and relationship issues, and God's intended lessons behind it. In it, we take you through your spiritual journey back home to your Original Self. We talk about God's purpose behind that soul’s journey, as we follow our heart’s dreams to our ultimate destiny. We answer many questions about selfishness, prosperity, psychotherapy, and finding our dreams and happiness. We share much about boundaries. We also talk about the spiritual controls we have within to bring our good to us. Those controls are our Sincerity Switch, Spontaneity Switch, and lastly our Feelings and Dreams Switch. It specifically addresses emotional abuse and relationship issues, and God's intended lessons behind it. This is the ultimate book on your type of situation. Thank you for visiting. Shayne and Lori North A Deeper Look at Emotional Abuse and its Effects
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