Relationship Quizzes and How to Use Them

We cannot have a section on relationships without having a page on quizzes, and a little explanation that we feel is necessary about their use and relevancy.

Using only this means and the insight you derive from them to guide you to a good match is like building a house with only a saw and sawhorse. You will need more tools than that. Quizzes are only one of the several tools necessary to navigate the waters of our social world. Do not leave the other tools out! Relationship quizzes cannot do the job alone, but they can help if you use them in conjunction with another body of energy already within you, your individuality.

Proponents of quizzes declare that all the insight required finding a perfect match you can gain from the use of their quizzes, and other ways of measuring yourself and other people. That is over simplistic and deceiving, since obviously they seek you to sign up for their horoscopes, emails, and to subscribe to their websites so they can sell your email address, and other benefits. If you are considering the use of quizzes to figure out better who you are, and to increase your chances of meeting more compatible social contacts, you may have more than incompatibility issues to worry about. You may have major disconnect issues present, which will require more than their quizzes to correct. The good news is none of the required correction will cost you a dime, just a lot of introspection into your self.

Welcome to our website. Thank your for visiting us. If you are considering using relationship quizzes to help you find yourself, and to assist in finding others similar to you, that would be like looking for a child lost in a snowstorm using a candle. What you need is illumination on a much grander scale, like a helicopter search light, with tens of millions of candlepower. The problem is that all the enlightenment that any series of relationship quizzes can provide is not nearly enough for you to fill in the social voids in your life. Whatever the reason you are considering relationship quizzes, they can be part of a better way, a more direct way to achieve the same goal, more completely. Use the quizzes, and other disciplines of whatever kind you wish, but use them as accessories, not as the only tool. Whether you are concerned about a certain weak relationship, as in your marriage, or if you are seeking to gain higher social skills for creating future relationships, there is a more direct way to get there. Their relationship quizzes can help, but the main effort must come from you and from awareness from within of who you are.

What you or a loved one is trying to do is to build a life, not just repair, or build new relationships. The grand objective is to build your life for yourself and the relationships and the skills to gain those relationships are only a small section on that road. One possible choice is to bypass the information gathering steps and the use of the intellect altogether. There is a far more direct road to where you want to go, than can be understood by the intellect. You cannot ‘understand’ your way through life and achieve any kind of true fulfillment.

When it comes to building your life with all of the social and emotional companionship that a full life provides, there is a more powerful tool than your mind. The true weapon of choice in the creation of our world is not our brain or any extension of it mentally, but our heart and all our yearnings within. Our heart builds our life, with all the financial, social, emotional, and spiritual mechanisms that comprise our support structure, and make our life full and complete. If there is any deficiency in any of these mechanisms, such a poverty, loneliness, lack of direction, and emotional need of any kind, that indicates a separation from ourselves on the inside. The problem is you have shut off your heart and you are running on your mind. Relationship quizzes alone, and all the other mental attempts at solving our life’s spiritual voids are like flying in a plane at night in a rainstorm without using radar. Our assertion is you cannot build with your mind using knowledge what you heart should be building with its yearnings and its dreams, to guide you.

The correction is simple, and that is to turn off your mind in dealing with need, and start looking at life through the yearnings in your heart. Our hearts contain powerful energies, which we often turn off as children, and fail to reactivate. With practice, you can make it a natural state of being again, just as you were a child. What has all this have to do with using quizzes? It has everything to do with it. Our need for love and companionship, and our lack of it in our world, is a spiritual need, and the use of our mind to fix a spiritual need will not work. Our lack of use of our heart, and all its wonders and magic within caused this need to grow over time, in the first place. It will only be through the rediscovering the magic in our dreams that will bring our relationships back to us.

How to use relationship quizzes properly and get the best benefit out of them

Before you do another quiz, and before you look at anything else, first stop and look inside yourself. Ask yourself the following questions.

Familiarize yourself fully with all the new self-concept that these questions will reveal. This set of questions will start you in the new perspective of focusing on yourself, and your inner energies, which is spiritually healthy. It is not just the new information in your mind that will help you find your friends or heal the existing relationships: It is the awakened feelings in your heart that will bring loved ones to you, and heal old wounds where appropriate. If you will work on the reconnection to your hearts desires, and the disappointments in getting to them, it will lead you home to your new life, and its fullness. If you do not know what drives you and makes you different, then how can you match yourself with others with relationship quizzes to others like you? All you will match up with are other disconnected searchers like yourself, in other words all you will find are losers. As we say in spiritual therapy, ‘do not go to market without your wallet!’ Let us find our wallet here, and all the Soul Money inside, and then we will go to the vast spiritual marketplace.

Who are you?

What are you talents?

What are your passions?

What is the driving force that excites you beyond measure?

What do you love to do more than anything else on earth?

What do you love to think about or create so much that you could spent the rest of your life doing just that and never tire of it?

What message would you love to tell the whole world if you could cry it from the highest mountaintop?

What is the deepest thing inside you that you would love the whole world to see?

What is the uniqueness about you that is different from all others on earth?

We are all George Washington, Queen Elizabeth, Princess Diana, and Mohammed Ali in some form. If someone would write history, and you were in it, what would you like humankind to remember you for achieving and bringing into the world?

What things about you are special, and what about you makes you very lovable?

Do you understand the difference between nurturement from a clean relationship and needing another to give you your sense of self-value from a poisoning bad relationship?

Can I imagine people loving me, enjoying being with me, just as I am, or do I feel I have to earn their love?

Once you have answered these questions fully, you will begin seeing through the perspective that ‘I matter,’ and ‘in my world, I come first,’ which is as it should be. Once this becomes a natural part of your psyche, then, you are aware of your Soul Money, and now you can go to market. Once you are aware of whom you are, and have a sense of your significance, then you will begin to turn on the very powerful searchlight within your heart. Turning on your heart means reclaiming your personhood rights, seeing, feeling, thinking, and choosing, in your own best interests, with apologies to no one. Turn on your opinions, your selfishness, your sense of importance, and declare that ‘I matter.’ Once you start to feel comfortable in this healthy selfish mode, then you can then use any questions or examinations very effectively, to fulfill your life.

At this point, use what ever other discipline you like, horoscopes, numerology, religion, psychology, medicine, alternative medicine, relationship quizzes, etc but measure and quantify it through the eyes of your heart, and let your heart decide what works for you. Add the parts that agree with how you see things, and reject the stuff that does not.

To learn more about finding our high self esteem, and finding the nurturing relationships we deserve, please consider our first in series book Overcoming Depression from Emotional Abuse/The Tools of Your Mind.

In this book, we talk about the whole overview of our soul’s journey as we follow our heart’s dreams to our ultimate destiny. We answer many questions about selfishness, prosperity, psychotherapy, and finding our dreams and happiness. We talk much about our boundaries. We also talk about the spiritual controls we have within to bring our good to us. Those controls are our Sincerity Switch, Spontaneity Switch, and lastly our Feelings and Dreams Switch.

Thank you for visiting us today and please keep in touch, sharing your trials and your victories with us. We promise to answer personally every Email that we receive.

Shayne and Lori North in Aurora, Colorado

Overcoming Depression from Emotional Abuse/The Tools of Your Mind The Book

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