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Depression and RelationshipsDepression and Relationships In response to your inquiries, we are going to dedicate this place on the website to the correlation between these two very important areas, and explain in detail their connection. There seems to be a lot of misunderstanding about these areas, and how both fit together. We will clarify all that right here. Thank you for joining us. Welcome to our website. If you or a loved one suffers in any way from the debilitating effects of either depression or anxiety, we give you our deepest respects. We wish to bring encouragement that there is an answer and a solution for your condition. You can live a victorious and full life, and we will help. To begin, depression and relationships are connected, and one influences the other, but not in the ways, you may think. At this point, the river is too wide and deep to cross, so we must go further upstream, closer to the source. These two things are not parent and child, as it at first seems, for they are siblings and have common parents. As it turns out, they both come from our self-esteem and our self-placement in the pride and shame spectrum. If our childhood has well nurtured us as children, and we have all of our growth achievements applauded, and we feel significant in our personhood, then that will effect us today. Unless we have no purely medical reasons, there will be no depression, and our quality of relationships will be very high. Depression will be what we experience based upon our self-esteem, and the permissions we give ourselves to make choices to create our own happiness. If our self-esteem is very low, then we will not see, nor seek to see, the decision to change employment from a negative and underpaying employer, or end the contact with an abusive spouse, church senior, or violent friend. With that choice overlooked, we feel powerless and the damaging relationship strengthens. The negative relationship then reinforces our depression. While one of the necessary first steps in our healing is to liberate ourselves from life damaging and abusive relationships, it will do no good in and of itself. The reason is if one does that, what they will do is to find a duplicate negative one with which to replace it. We call that marrying or dating on the rebound, and we all know how fruitless those efforts are! When we try to find freedom from an abuser, we will only find another abuser, this in turn only reinforces our experience that all life is evil and all that exists is abusers to find, and we give up. We then will choose to stay with an abuser or we will isolate away from everyone emotionally. The reason is that our self-esteem is very low and our shame is high, so that blinds our spiritual radar only to see poisoners like ourselves. The way we create our world is on the psychic level, and we generate all of our life’s experiences by what we see and respond to, as regards making friends and choosing relationships. If our self-esteem is low and our shame is off the scale high, then all we will attract-yes, attract to us are poisoners and losers. If we populate our surroundings with abusers and losers, then our choices are poor. To make the necessary adjustment we will have to go further upstream as we mentioned earlier to the source of the problem. As we mentioned, the parents of both our depression and relationships are our self-esteem and our pride. We first must make the conscious choice to see ourselves as beautiful, lovable, and significant, before we can change both the resultive depression and relationships at all. If we stay in our guilt, shame and low self-esteem, we will not attract to us nurturing and loving contacts into our world, nor will we see them if they were there. If we choose to forgive ourselves, improve our self-esteem, and seek nurturing from others because we deserve it, the nurturers will come. Our self-definition is our prayers, and our psychic energies will obey by doing what we tell it to do. Here is a brief summary; Shame, guilt, and self-hate attract to us others who will gladly reinforce what we think of ourselves. Depression and relationships are the children of our feelings about us. If we choose self-forgiveness and seek to meet our selfish nurturement needs from others who will love us, then we will attract nurturers into our world, and we will enhance our spiritual ability to see them. Our depression or lack thereof, and the quality of our friendships will reflect what we wish for ourselves over time. Your world will exactly mirror that which you see in yourself. If you see evil and feel shame, your life will reflect that. If you see forgiveness and beauty, over time your world will attract to you and reflect that back to you, as well. Self-love will attract New Order people into your personal kingdom to worship you in your personhood. Self-love will organize life around you to bring your good to you and people who are your type, into your sphere of influence. The very bottom line is for you to start loving yourself, see the beauty within, and forgive yourself from past mistakes. If you have done wrong, then you must change and move on. The changing you owe to others and to Life and the moving on you owe to yourself. To learn more about our self-love, depression and friendships, please consider our first in series book Overcoming Depression from Emotional Abuse/The Tools of Your Mind. In this book, we talk about the whole overview of our soul’s journey as we follow our heart’s dreams to our ultimate destiny. We answer many questions about selfishness, prosperity, psychotherapy, and finding our dreams and happiness. We talk much about our boundaries. We also talk about the spiritual controls we have within to bring our good to us. Those controls are our Sincerity Switch, Spontaneity Switch, and lastly our Feelings and Dreams Switch. Thank you for visiting us today and please keep in touch, sharing your trials and your victories with us. We promise to answer personally every Email that we receive. Shayne and Lori North
Overcoming Depression from Emotional Abuse/The Tools of Your Mind The Book
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