Self Esteem Quotes

Self esteem quotes on ‘I am’ and ‘me.’

I am beautiful, just as I am.

I am a localized piece of God, sent here ‘to grow, to learn, and by doing that, to serve.’

For every ‘me,’ there is a wonderful set of friends and loved ones waiting to meet and adore me.

For every ‘me,’ there is a place of comfort for me to find, and that is my spiritual home where I belong.

I am worthy of happiness and fulfillment.

I am worthy and deserve anything I am willing to work hard enough to earn.

I have a right to get my needs met.

I am good, therefore, I deserve good.

I am more than a person, for I am a Promise!

At some point, I matter most. I need my time in the spotlight getting other’s attention. I need my time to share what I think, as well as listen to others share.

Welcome to our website. Thank you for visiting us. We hope you find the answers, which you seek here in these pages. Before we get into more affirmations that are positive we need to see what self esteem is and how our negative life experiences can damage us, if we do not understand those experiences. Then we will look at how we may repair our broken emotions. We will share a few positive affirmations which will act as vitamins for the mind to help heal the damage of abuse we may have experienced as a child. We hope these positive affirmations will bring comfort and healing to you or your loved one. The way to raise self esteem is to counter the lies we believe within with the truth from without. Positive Self Esteem Affirmations, or self esteem quotes will help correct our self definition. The positive affirmations will help us by showing us true views of ourselves and of life that our parents intentionally misrepresented to us in our youth. Self esteem quotes are affirmations of the good that is within, and the opportunity that is out there in life, which we incorrectly believe we have no right to embrace.

Self esteem is the inner sense we feel of our magnitude and rightness about us, in relation to the world. The most important concept we learn as children is the concept that we are significant, and right, and therefore justified, to participate in our own lives to get our own needs met. Our self esteem should also encourage us to get our own will accomplished, as well. Our self esteem is the window through which we participate in the building of our lives, and through which we allow ourselves to interact with others. As children, what we learn from our parents, or from life without our parents, determines the size of the window frame of that self esteem. A large window frame allows us to project our own will into action to build a rich and full life for ourselves. If we have a strong self esteem, we know that what we have to say, and what we love to do is welcome and right and we feel full permission to do that. We participate fully, unencumbered in our life’s construction, with much joy and enthusiasm. However, for many of us, our self esteem may be badly damaged by abuse or neglect in childhood. If we have a weakened self esteem from bad experiences, our window frame of feeling significant and right is small, and allows us no room to reach in to life and participate in any way. In severe cases, with a much-diminished self esteem, we do not allow ourselves to feel our feelings or our desires either. Because what we want is off limits, the hurt is too much. Since we believe even having our feelings is wrong for us, we cannot participate in our own lives to build anything! We live by viewing our life as a passive audience instead of as an actor on our stage, where we should be the hero and the star!

One of the best ways to change our damaged self esteem is to use strong positive affirmations to begin our emotional reconstruction. Positive affirmations can start the process rolling of questioning our damaging views of ourselves. By repeating the positive affirmations that seem most relevant to our situation, we start to see them in their truth. The more you repeat something, the more you will start to believe it, just like with an abuse event, which happened repeatedly in childhood. These positive affirmations start us to question our diminished self value as we measure ourselves by more relevant standards of today. Repeated affirmations of our sacredness and our inner worth will imprint into our minds and change the damaging lies we believe presently. Self esteem quotes need to be simple, for easy memorization. As abusive and boundary violating situations arise, we can recall these affirmations and apply them to change our thinking gradually for the better. Self esteem quotes need to be regarded as tools, like a measuring device, by which we measure the correctness of a relationship, or our response in a given situation.

As a life-damaging event keeps happening to you repeatedly, you will be able to recall and focus on a positive affirmation about yourself each time the event takes place. If you are experiencing abuse from an employer for instance, then repeating an affirmation relevant to that abuse will be appropriate each time you feel offended by your employer’s actions. If they talk down to you, or shame you in the presence of other employees or customers, or otherwise treat your unfairly, you will be hurt by their actions. As you get in touch with this deep hurt, and as you think about a relevant self esteem quote or affirmation that applies, some good things will start to happen. Healing will begin as you affirm the quote each time you think about the abuse. Nothing will seem to happen, as you may not respond at first. However, over time the affirmation will become strong enough to prompt you to retaliate appropriately. Then you will begin to make life-enhancing choices.

The first growth step will be you will start to get in touch with the hurt . You will learn how to quantify that which offends you, by learning how to put it into words. You will acquire skill of very easily defining what the boundary violations or shaming incidents were, which normally abusers are good at cloaking. You will soon learn to define exactly what it was about an event that bothered you and why it was improper and shaming. Abusers are skilled at changing the subject by arguing with you in an attempt to stop you from seeing things through your own eyes. Your use of positive affirmations to compare what you felt with what you want and deserve will start you seeing things through your own eyes again. Self esteem quotes or affirmations will work to start you seeing things through your eyes, and take that advantage away from your abuser. Remember, you do not owe them any explanation as to why you felt offended or violated by their actions! You do not need their approval to be offended at their emotional abuse, you only need your permission to be offended. Then it is your responsibility to do something about it with aggressive action against them.

Once you get comfortable with feeling your feelings about the things you like and the things you do not like, another good thing will start to happen as well. You will start to take back your right to defend your boundaries, once you get used to feeling them. What you once saw as a bad day at work with being unable to keep your boss happy, you will now see for what it really is, and that is an abusive boss violating your boundaries repeatedly. By repeating self esteem quotes about your boundaries, you will soon see it was not your inadequacy that gave you a bad day, it was your employer's abuse of you by violating your sacred Soul Space. That is a big difference in how to see things, and that new view will give you the moral permission you need to take aggressive action to liberate yourself from his or her abuse.

What about the issues of low self esteem about feeling ugly, awkward, unskilled and unrefined, or overweight and undesirable, do self esteem quotes help there as well? What about those situations where one may be lonely and wish to seek a date but are too afraid to ask? Joining a singles Sunday school class for finding a spouse may feel embarrassing if we feel unworthy and ugly inside. This strikes home with me for that is where I was for many years! Start by committing those self esteem quotes to memory about our inner value. Those self esteem quotes will help us to see ourselves as others who need us will see us, and that is as beautiful and welcome, and an answer to their prayers. Remember, not all of life will see you as your abusive and hateful parents saw you, for there are more sides to you than just being their unwelcome child. In the many arenas in life where your talents fit in, you will be welcome indeed. You will be much appreciated by those who need you, and believe us, there are those out there who need you deeply. If you are lonely for others, somewhere out there others are just as lonely for you!

By committing new truth to memory in your mind, you will grow strong in your heart. Your heart gets its marching orders, or permissions, from your mind, and your mind gets its direction from your heart. Nevertheless, you must start to let your heart and your mind get back together. Your heart wants to follow its path to a happy destiny, and your mind is holding it back because it is telling your heart that you do not deserve it. Positive Affirmations will help convince your mind of the truth that your heart always has known. That truth is you deserve the happy destiny that is waiting out there for you somewhere. That destiny includes all the love you ever wanted, and all the achievement of your interests you wanted to explore, as well.

To discover how to find your place in life, consider our new book Overcoming Depression from Emotional Abuse/Tools of your Mind. This is the ultimate book on healing our self esteem. In Overcoming Depression from Emotional Abuse/Tools of your Mind we talk about the power our abusers have over us due to our lack of self esteem, and the ways to free our self from these abusive relationships. We talk about how God gave us our talents to enjoy ourselves and to share with others, bringing us freedom and prosperity. We also talk about the whole overview of our soul’s journey as we follow our heart’s dreams to our ultimate destiny. We answer many questions about our inner beauty, selfishness, prosperity, psychotherapy, and finding our dreams and happiness. We also talk about the spiritual controls we have within to bring our good to us. Those controls are our Sincerity Switch, Spontaneity Switch, and lastly our Feelings and Dreams Switch.

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Affirmations on the world around us

What life taught me earlier was wrong; I am not unworthy, unlovable, nor undesirable. Those definitions came from my parents, who were not good parents.

Life sent me hardship not because I deserve it, but so that I could grow from it.

For every abuser, there are a hundred nurturers waiting to fill their shoes in my world.

I have something of great value within me that the world needs somewhere out there.

If I put effort into defending my boundaries, and following my dreams, soon I will find my place in the sun.

Somewhere out there someone needs me, and my heart will lead me to him or her if I trust my heart.

Affirmations on feelings and boundaries

My life around me is part of me, and anyone in my life that hurts me is wrong. I am not wrong for feeling the hurt from others. If they are causing me shame by hurting me, they must go!

Others exist in my world to deify me, not to hurt me. I do not exist to be their audience for their grandeur. If they do not respect my personhood, I must choose to leave them.

I deserve my space and the respect of others within my space.

Wherever I go, I take my loveliness and my dignity with me; it is not separable from me.

I have the right to create my own life to get my needs met and accomplish my will for myself.

I exist in other’s worlds for their benefit to deify them because we have something in common, and they must exist in my world to deify me as well, that is fair spiritual exchange.

Affirmations on inner beauty

I do not need to be beautiful on the outside if I am not, for that means my beauty and talent are on the inside, where I will never lose it to old age.

Beautiful people are only beautiful while they are young, beyond that they will have no edge if they do not cultivate that which is within.

Most of our lives we spend in older years where youth and outer beauty are of no asset.

My personality and my view of life are the most valuable gifts I have, and someone out there wants to meet me because of my gifts, so that we can share a life together.

The world cannot love me if the world cannot meet me, and to do that, I must share my authentic self with everyone I meet.

Affirmations on God and what is right.

Earlier in life I experienced abuse and emotional pain, not because I deserve it, but because God wanted me to learn how to take care of myself.

God wanted me to learn how to find the love from others, and find my own loveliness without needing life to provide it for me. God seeks to teach me how to be fully responsible for myself in my world.

God created me with all the talent and beauty I will ever need to make my place in the hearts of those who need me.

I am part of life’s unfolding plan, because I am part of the good that God wishes to come forth.

I am part of God’s Will for Humanity, for I am a small piece of God.

God sends me as a statement of good and what can be, not a statement of failure and what cannot be.

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