Young and in love??
by Bethany
(Florida)
First off, I'm 18 years old. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 3 years now. We have a son that is 7 months old. It all started great! I found my first love and everything went wonderful. We got along so good and I not only considered him as my boyfriend but he was my best friend.
He was always there for me when I needed him. But time went on and things were changing. He began sleeping around with other girls behind my back.
But I was so in love and emotionally attached to him because hes the only guy i have ever had sex with that I gave him another chance to make it right.
(Now heres the where it was really getting worse----->) When we met, i was really young and just became a teenager. Ive always been a home-body and never went out to party.
So I started hanging out with some friends and I was influenced and i cheated on my boyfriend. I DID NOT have sex with the other guy. But I did tell the other guy that I liked him and I was going to his house a couple of times to visit.
It would of been different if me and the guy were just friends but I started having feelings for him and i felt like I was betraying my boyfriend.
So I told the guy that I didn't want to go any further and told him I was not going to talk to him anymore. I called my boyfriend and told him what had happened and from there on he never trusted me again.
But I knew deep down that I only wanted him. And from there on I wanted to prove my faith to him. A year later we are still together but my boyfriend is very controlling and demanding.
He slaps me and is very verbally abusive too. He calls me Bitch, whore, and trash. Then he would turn around and be so nice to me. Hes always comparing me to this other girl. He tells me that I'm not half the woman she is and that she is PERFECT!
I have to call him at certain times each day and if I'm 1 minute late I get yelled and fussed at. Sometimes he even brakes up with me. I am not allowed to talk to other guys or even look at them or he will brake up with me.
After I found out that I was pregnant, I thought maybe things would change. We had a long conversation about how we need to change how we treat each other and do things the right way.
He told me he was not going to cheat on me again and now we need to do things that a family would do. Well our son was born and things are not getting better. Its worse!!! After I had the baby I found out that he has had sex with over 5 other girls. But once again I gave him another chance.
Its getting to where that I can't even watch TV because there are guys on the TV and he don't want me looking at them. He gets raged if I even talk to my sisters husband. He also controls where I go or who I talk to. He doesn't want me to get a job because of other guys. This has been going on for too long and its stupid.
But he wont ever trust me and I don't know where to turn to because he only gets angry when I tell my mom our problems.
And because of my jealousy with him sleeping with other girls, thats why I stay with him.
I'm afraid of him getting someone else pregnant. I'm very depressed and unhappy but I don't want him with another girl. How do I get over my jealousy and move on??
Hi Bethany,
Sounds like you are about fed up and ready to clean house, and that is just what you will have to do. Being afraid of him making someone else pregnant, and being with other girls! He is doing that now, and pregnancy for them is a matter of time. Concede defeat for him and leave, otherwise it is defeat for you, because right now you have the best it is going to ever get with him.
Sweetheart, you can do better, much better, try and see! There is a fine young man waiting close by somewhere in your life, but he is polite enough to see if you have the guts to dump your loser. Remember, he does not a want a spineless loser for himself either. Show the world you are not one.
The whole world will cheer for you, if you do the right thing, and you know inside what that is.
Shayne
